The Grand and Mysterious
This whole experience is strange and creates many questions.
I find myself getting attached to people, most of whom are really just names - and not real ones at that. Then I remember that I don't really know any of these people, just the words they speak, and people can say anything - just look at politics in this country. Many times people dont want to talk RL (understandable as so many of us use this as an escape) so we end up talking about the game, or about technical computer things, or nothing really - and how does one draw any conclusions about people, or develop friendships, or trust?
We joke, we kid, we ask general, "how are you" questions - the way you do when you run into an aquaintance in the grocery store who's name you can't quite remember and who's face you cant quite place, but clearly they think you are best friends for life, or were at one time anyway.
We play games, like people stuck in an elevator playing "I'm thinking of something" to keep from panicking at the fact that they are shut in a small, cramped space with people they only know because we all have two eyes, ears, a nose, hands, feet, bellybutton-lint. But what do we really know?
We end up relying on the essential stability and predictability patterns that begin to appear as you see people over and over again. You even begin to value the opinions of those whose patterns and predictability become familiar to you. One person you hardly know giving you advice or warning about another person you know only slightly less.
What is this time, spent during lives already painfully short? Are we wasting it "chatting" with folks we hardly know - who give out information as if tentatively reaching to pet a strange dog who may either pant, smile and wag his tail happily - or bit your hand off? Why do we do this? What do other's think of this dilemma? No one talks about it. Perhaps because it's so personal and there's no one we trust enough to discuss it.
I've got to go, I've been away from the chat room long enough and don't want to miss anything.....
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I love it! and agree with your sentiments. Keep on writing!!!!!!!
Semper Culcitat---Always Quilting
very nicely put M, beautiful in fact. thanks for sharing and pls write more
the chance meetings of our lives can indeed be friendships of many kinds. :)
Adijike 2007 Hi I am Adijike in the game. I hear what you say but I disagree on several points. I hope you don't mind. I really do think we know the people in the game better then you think. We connect by way of a computer in an energetic way. We can not know how connected we are when we are interacting with everyone because we are not yet conscious of ourselves as energy beings. I found that people acted like they act in reality in their avis as much as was possible, even tho they were not aware of it or tried not to. The relationships formed in the game were similar to those formed outside the game in depth and quality for me. I attracted certain people to my circle as I do in real life. It was a fascinating experience for me and just as rewarding as my friendships in my real life.
Hello Adijike,
I do not mind at all. This is the kind of feedback I was looking for. I was not making a statement so much as sending out feelers for opinions and feelings on the matter. I find the relationships rewarding as well, but it's taken a long time. Actually I've found that I've met more people connected to URU, but out of URU, than when it was LIVE.
Do you mean energy as in life-force? Energy as in cosmic?
You use the term "acting." How exactly can we be ourselves if we are acting? How are you yourself, and yet you hide your name, your job, your lives, you hide your "real" self.
Can we establish friendships based on the most superficial facts, info, conversation, games? I admit, there's a core group I chat with and we have fun and are supportive of eachother, but it's like standing outside and skimming the surface of the pool, there's so much underneath. And of course you have to remain relatively anonymous for safety's sake. How do you reconcile these two and create friendships from them?
I am not saying it cant be done, or isn't being done. I am simply curious about the nature of it and how people percieve it, and handle it themselves.
How would you explain it to someone who doesn't use a computer at all, or has never gone beyond email? What is different and what is the same about connecting with other people in this format?
Adijike 2007 Mesnab, I see energy as being 90 percent of what we are and it connects us all together and with everything. Some things conduct energy like phones, computers, touch and many other things. So if you are in touch with what you are feeling energetically from a person, that is another way or demension of the person you are aware of. I have learned that connection to people has many different levels, mainly controled by how in touch a person is with themselves, I think. You can't see parts of a person they are not willing to share with themselves or others for this is a free will universe. So intimacy or how close we can come to each other even in the physical world is very much dictated I think, by how healthy an individual is in relationship to themselves and others. I know that even tho I touch someone in very intimate ways, I may not know them at all when the rubber meets the road. To Know someone means to know yourself. Hope this little bit helps. I have been a student of relating and relationship for many years.
So, relationships such as we had on URU Live were meaningful as much as they could be in a real sense and I don't think it was wasted time but another way to spend time or make choices. Of Course, my time in the game had to be prioritized in consideration with what was going on in other demensions of my life. We must balance everything, don't you think?
People hide whether they are online or in the physical world. The only thing I know for certain about anyone is that they can always surprise you. I've been suprised by many.... and I've suprised my share. It isn't a good thing or a bad thing, it just is. But, everything adds.
Be kind. Remember that everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. Love all, trust a few, do harm to no one.
And so Mesnab---
Have some of your questions been answered after meeting us?
Hey there,
I so enjoy the fun we have in chat. My tummy aches from all the laughter - not to mention the strain on my bladder !!!!
Tortoise - That sums me up. Except in chat where I feel safe - and maybe that's why ppl open up there.
All I know is that I haven't talked so much for years. Maybe it's good for us ...
It is diificult to trust people, some you meet online and you feel as if you've known them for years.
I used to find it so hard to communicate, now it's like a dam has burst - amazing !!!!!!